Because we give life to you..

Think about that for a minute..we give life to you.

There's an ongoing discussion about how women are targeted in social media. Of course, women understand that it's not just there, it's everywhere. We disagree, we're targeted. We object, we're targeted. We stand up, we're targeted. Men have such an extreme need to control women. Are we that powerful?

In a word, yes. We are that powerful..not that you want us to be. We give you life. You don't want us choosing to do otherwise, so you do everything possible to circumvent the very constitutional protections that had to be put in place to protect us from your control issues. And by otherwise, I mean reproductive choice. That's our decision, by the way. You can enact laws that require vaginal ultrasounds (oh my, the rape fantasies you must have), but courts will overturn them eventually. Or eventually we'll elect rational people to government office who actually understand how to govern in a compassionate, realistic and honorable way. But make no mistake about it, balance will return. And, in spite of our more confused sisters out there, women will lead the way.

Sexual harassment online is just icky. It goes from bad to worse almost immediately. Considering that many of us have experienced some form of abuse in our lives, it's interesting that these guys "go there" so quickly. Predatory behavior takes all forms and if they think this isn't predatory, they're wrong. Assault is assault, whether verbal or otherwise. Women shouldn't have to stay off social media to prevent this from happening. The guys doing this need to either stop or go away. It's creepy, and sometimes criminal. It seems to reflect an out of control rage or something because it gets incredibly vulgar at times. Then there are the guys who apparently think that because you friend them, you want to hook up. We say nothing to actually suggest this, but it doesn't stop them from getting confused.

So here's my take on participating in social media. I have accounts on most of them and I have a great time talking with other folks who share my views on life. When I talk to folks who feel differently, as long as it remains respectful, I love that too. We grow from individual differences, and many times another view is expressed which gives me pause. I like that. What I don't like is name calling and judgment. We see only a piece of people who engage online. We have no idea who anyone really is and what they go through each day. Why not leave the vitriol at the door? It only stops the conversation, when conversation is what we really need.

Social media offers a wonderful opportunity for connection and unity. I remember talking to a woman on Twitter back east where she was present during a gun incident. Several of us were talking to her, making sure she was safe. To have an opportunity to extend love and concern to someone we didn't know who was at risk was a blessing. She was finally safe and I felt such relief. It didn't matter that I didn't know her. She was my..no, our..sister, and that's all that mattered.

In reality, we are all part of the Oneness that is God. We have the opportunity to express that on social media, or we can express other things.. For me, I think it's better to try to create than destroy, so I prefer positive engagement over negative.

Remember..we give life to you. We're your mothers, grandmothers, wives, girlfriends, partners, sisters, friends, co-workers, neighbors.. We're necessary. Words matter. How you treat us matters. We have more choices than you can even imagine..and we're making them.

Balance will return.

"Feminized atmosphere" alert..

Okay, I couldn't let this one pass. A guy by the name of Brit Hume suggested that 

 "..New Jersey Gov. Chris Christie (R) had only gotten a reputation for being a bully because men could not be “masculine and muscular” in the “feminized atmosphere” created by the media." The Raw Story: Fox’s Brit Hume shocks female panelist: ‘Feminized atmosphere’ made Christie a ‘bully’

Really? Women, via their champions in the media, are preventing men from being "masculine and muscular"? So women and the media emasculate men to the point that they feel it necessary to behave as a bully? 

Oh my God, where do I start? No, Brit, bullying is a choice. Intimidation is a choice. Manipulation is a choice. If women are doing all of this, don't you think we'd have everything we want by now? Does this also apply to men who beat women to death, or just when they slap them around a bit? Does it apply to men who rape women? Who are these pansy-assed men to whom Brit is referring? Are they all politicians? Is that what's going on in Texas? In Virginia?

Brit, is it my fault if I'm sexually harassed? Is it what I'm wearing? Is it my perfume? Is it how I look? What did that teacher do wrong that day prior to the election when Governor Christie, with his wife looking on grinning from ear to ear, yelled at and berated her? Was that the media's fault that he bullied this woman? Was it her fault?

This "old-fashioned" way men have of behaving went out a long time ago. I know there's a resurgence of this idiotic behavior, nevertheless it's unwelcome. Stop blaming others for your ridiculousness. Every day, you get up and you have a choice as to who you are going to be. Are you going to extend love and unity to others, or are you going to make life difficult. As a governor, Christie has a responsibility, in my opinion, to be as gracious the people of New Jersey as possible, regardless if they voted for him or they didn't. His behavior, at times, falls far short of this. At times, he presents himself as a caring person. He needs to make up his mind which it is, and then do that. Because if he doesn't, people will choose for him and it won't be the caring option. 

Guys have to stop blaming women, and evidently the media, for all the crap that exists in the world. Because if you look beneath the surface of most of it..I'll just bet you won't find too many women as the cause. The days of "boys will be boys" have ended. Women aren't listening anymore.